A month ago, Dr. Ruth passed away.
I wrote about my meeting with her in a green room years ago, which included a moment where she offered me advice on sex. I was asked by many readers what the advice was, and after searching the archives — which is to say my blog, my Homework for Life, and several journals — I managed to find it.
So by request, here is the advice Dr. Ruth offered me about sex in the green room at a TEDx Talk in 2015.
I’ve switched the word “wife” — which she used that day — to “partner” to make the advice applicable to anyone.
Hope it helps!
- Don’t be goal-oriented. The journey to orgasm is just as important and sometimes even more important than the orgasm itself.
- Have sex before you go out to dinner. It will make for a lovely meal.
- You must talk about sex to have good sex. You must also talk about sex when you are not having sex.
- You and your partner must touch each other throughout the day. Touching is so important.
- You should be kissing a lot. During sex. Before sex. After sex. Anytime. Don’t forget how exciting kissing once was and can and should be again.
