Category Archives: Quandry

Do racists long for the good old days?

I’ve often said that my father was born 100 years too late. My father was a cowboy in ever sense of the word. When I was a child, he spent more time on a horse than not. He once brought … Continue reading

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I wrote a poem. I need a critique. Please help.

I wrote a poem about my son today. I’ve been working on it for three days, including about an hour this morning. I’m ready to hear what people think. Suggestions? The second line was especially troubling for me (I’ve written … Continue reading

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Random thoughts and observations from a weekend spent with authors and readers

Booktopia, the annual weekend retreat in Vermont that brings authors and readers together, has come to a close. Hosted by Ann Kingman and Michael Kindness, producers of the Books of the Nightstand podcast, it has become one of our favorite … Continue reading

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A question about female criticism that is likely to get me killed.

I am only asking, so please don’t kill me. There seems to be an enormous amount of angry, female criticism of Sheryl Sandberg’s LEAN IN on the Internet. Tweets, Facebook posts, blog posts, commenters. I can’t help but think that … Continue reading

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It’s disgusting either way, but which is worse?

This photo was taken by author and photographer Deborah Copaken Kogan in Claire’s, an accessory store found in malls across America. Which is worse? The company that sells a product as vile as this or the person who purchases it … Continue reading

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Was the destruction of the Death Star an inside job? Also, how did Luke Skywalker dodge the stigma of incest so easily?

If you haven’t seen the recent conspiracy video suggesting that the destruction of the first Death Star was an inside job perpetrated by the Empire, you should.   The video also got me thinking: Luke Skywalker is one unlucky son-of-a-bitch. … Continue reading

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WWMD (or maybe WWMDD)

A friend recently employed the following strategy when she found herself looking for a solution to a problem: WWMD: What Would Matt Do? And it worked. She asked herself what I would do, and almost immediately, a solution was found.  … Continue reading

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Competitive, creative to-do listing: Which do you think is best?

I used to think that this to-do list was the best ever. In response to its greatness, I produced a series of my own creative to-do lists. The first one was good. The second was even better. Frankly, I thought … Continue reading

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Please settle a bet between my wife and me: Did you ever walked the railroad tracks at least once as a child?

Yesterday, I wondered aloud how the railroad companies keep snow off the tracks. It turns out that they use plows attached to train engines to clear the tracks. Before I was able to check Google for the answer, Elysha suggested … Continue reading

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Do you know anyone who smokes?

As Connecticut debates a ban on smoking in cars with children, The Daily Beast offers a list of establishments where smoking is still permitted. I’m frankly stunned that any of these places still exist. I’m even more surprised that young … Continue reading

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